Confessions Of Social Media Introvert
As a notorious introvert I must admit that social media helped me alot to get out of my nuttshell. 140 characters allows me to express what I can’t say in public and based on the reaction of my peers, what I have in mind actually resonates with people!
Instead of using this to empower myself then go out and feel comfortable enough to share my views with real people, it made me turn to social media even more (funny what we do for likes and social clout).
As time went on, it made sense because I was too shy to talk to people and I was slowly putting myself in a position where people could come to me instead of the opposite.
To be honest, my lack of social skills turned into embarassing moments in real life such as people telling me things like : “I never thought you were that boring” or more harsh stuffs like “It must hurt your jaw when you smile right?”.
Whether we like it or not social media influences our social dynamics and it creates new walls between people and new standards in the way we socialize.
Now that i’m trying my best to explore what life “offline” is all about, I did my research about how social media probably affected my behaviour and how I can rewire my interactions with people. This is what came out of it!
Social Media Following Is Used As A Real Life Validation
We all fall victim to this at one point or another. We don’t look at people as human beings with emotions. ideas and accomplishments; we now judge them based on the number of followers they have.
In an age where almost 60% of people’s following is fake, we have to be careful. It’s time to deconstruct that idea that a large following equals that you have to crawl in front of someone or pay attention to everything they say.
My perception changed when I spent 2 hours talking with a homeless man in Central Park, New York, 1 year ago.
I’ve gained a massive amount of insights on life and success from a man who can’t even afford a phone. Now I believe that EVERYONE has a value regardless of how many followers validate that.
We Desperately Want To Amplify Our Lifestyle
Pictures of food, pictures of the concerts we go to, snapchats of candid moments are a plague more than anything else when you really think about it. I know people who spend more time doing that than actually enjoying the moment (I am guilty too).
It seems like taking the phone down and appreciate good music, good food or good company is too much these days.
Social media is a good platform to showcase our lifestyle but not when it’s a total lie. Even worse is when we use that same lie to judge if we can or can’t socialize with certain people based on if they “fit” our personal lifestyle.
When all those instagram posts evaporates you will have to face something scarier than 0 likes; simply the real YOU!
The Like Syndrome
“Likes” are actually worth more than you think because we give them so much relevance. I even call it the new social currency. Sometimes you come accross a post or status and this happens: even though you feel like it’s worth your like you won’t do it because it’ll acknowledge someone else or give him or her too much value.
The same applies in real life now. You see someone wearing something you like or you’re attracted by someone but most of the time you won’t make the effort to go to this person because you feel like it’s corny or you’re hyping that person’s status.
I can understand why alot of us react like that. I’ve seen many people who are quote on quote superstars on social media not appreciating a compliment in real life because as Drake would say : they’re “used to this”.
The Like Syndrome goes both ways…
Love And Social Media Is The Worst Matched Ever
No disrespect to Tinder, Facebook or Twitter but I believe that a healthy relationship has to stay out of social media as much as possible. How many times we see couples posting those infamous #relationshipgoals pictures only to end up deleting everything like they never met each other.
You’re not in a relationship for cute instagram pictures, you’re not in a relationship to check in at your local spa or restaurant; it’s between you and your partner.If you knew how many dm slides you can escape if it wasn’t for you’re psychotic need to show everything on social media.
Contrary to popular beliefs, woman and man flirt more aggressivily with you when they you’re already taken. Is it somekind of challenge?
I personnaly think that social media makes alot of women and men insecure in their relationship also. How many couples fuss and fight over a like at the wrong place and wrong or a comment and status
The Superficial Side Of Social Media
Our standards of beauty or success were always alterned by the media. For a long time, Tv and magazines have dictated what was hot or not. Nowadays we are bombarded by ideas, thoughts, pictures, groups, forums, videos and it’s hard to step out of the mold.
Even when you do, you still have to live with the fact that people will throw a dozen of rotten tomatoes on you just for saying the opposite of common opinion.
This alone kills creativity and individuality. The opposite also true because alot of people have gained massive attraction because they automatically stand against popular opinions.
I think it kills the debate from the start when you put yourself in oppisition for recognition. Social media was mean’t to help people connect and share ideas but alot of times we withness division and debates that turn into roasting sessions.
Social Media’s From An Introvert Perspective Of Course
All of those aspects of what social media involves in our “offline” life are well documented. Those points mentioned are also based on my personal experience and what I see on the web everyday.
How do we escape from such the social media traps according to you? Do you think those points are true or you’ve noticed something else?
Please let us know in the comment section!
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To make it easy for you to navigate through their wide selection. They’ve put together a guide that brings together some of ideas for him and her.
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First off, it was a shocker to me that Sports Experts actually has Gopros but if you want to capture moments with your significant other and let him or her explore their creativity, this is the one!
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Let’s try something different for 2021, how about trading your usual dinner at home with candles for a nice and serene yoga session. You have to switch things up sometimes ladies and gents.
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The End Of An Era And A New Start: Dress To Kill Magazine Goes Digital
A New World Order
I hate to break it down to you so abruptly but the world is changing, the world as we knew it, the way we consume, the way we think and even that good old Dress To Kill magazine is going through it.
As a young and inexperienced blogger back in 2016, I felt deep in my earth that paper was a dying medium and that the internet was about to carry the torch.
a hundreds of blog posts later, multiple attempts at building an online presence and literally trying to digitize the aesthetics & creativity I saw in magazines growing up.
I must admit 2 things: 1. what it takes to make fashion or information enjoyable is very hard to put together and 2 building an audience on or offline is a GREAT feat.
I grew to admire and respect my peers in traditional media because they made the most out of nothing at a time where Facebook and all those outlets were not a thing.
In case you didn’t know, Dress To Kill magazine is not your average magazine by any shape or form.
Promoting Canadian art and fashion from province to province was something seemingly unthinkable but they got it done.
From iconic covers with Lenny Kravitz and more iconic nights at le Mount Stephen to bring the whole industry under the same roof, DTK got it done.
Don’t take what I’m saying as a farewell note because today actually mark a rebirth for the publication.
Indeed, while the world was going all over the place, they went on a well thought out rebrand.
As you might have guessed, the biggest take away from this is the stoppage of the paper version of the magazine.
The focus is now digital but as I told you earlier, DTK doesn’t go halfway.
Their new platform will include an online boutique which once again is going to focus on shedding light on Canadian creators for men and women.
Do you think more magazines are going to make a full transition to digital?
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I’m always amazed at how people like to stigmatize the role or relevance of a personal development coach. They’re quick to label it a scam, a fad, something based on nothing but little they did know, they’re coaches around the world who impacts millions and millions of people in a life changing way. I was looking for the equivalent of a Tony Robbins in Quebec, my research undoubtedly came back to the same name: Marc Dumaine.
Mr Dumaine is more than a personal development coach, he’s a man with a story.
Not your average story either. From overcoming alcohol and drug abuse to obtaining a MBA to running campaigns for some of the biggest corporations in this province. Here’s a man of many battles.
Honorable mention too, these days Marc is focused on creating an international platform to impact as many people he possibly can.
The bottom line is this. This personal development coach is not unfamiliar with trials and tribulations, changes and transitions.
That’s why to me, in a time like this where everything is doing a 180 degree, I had to pick his brain and ask him how can you and I get over.
In this Q&A, we indeed ask Marc Dumaine about several things such as how to bounce back from the crisis, his keys to success and much more.
QUESTIONS FOR MARC DUMAINE
#1 How did you figure yourself out as a future entrepreneur and what was the key factor that made you take that route?
I was always an artist at heart and found that I didn’t it in any mole. After completing my MBA, I realized that my biggest assets were my differences. I decided at that moment to stop following what people expected from me and launched my own business. To me being an entrepreneur is an art form in itself. I have never regretted that choice since I launched Asana Coaching 10 years ago.
#2 How can someone go from being self-employed to an entrepreneur making money without physically being there?
The internet is booming with opportunities right now ! Even with the COVID-19, there is a redefinition of the way people consume products and services ! It is a TIME for being creative and look into endless opportunities ! Get out of our comfort zone and start being inspired by people who are already doing it ! Then, build yourself a right game plan with an amazing branding, and you are all set for the best adventure of your life.
If you’re interested in seeing him in action, he’s doing a Facebook live tonight at 7:30 pm and if you’re looking for some light in these dark times, that’s the place to be.
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