I Went To A Swingers Club And I Actually Enjoyed It
Things that happen in Montreal at night sometimes…
Somehow Someway I’ve Found Myself In A Swingers Club…
I like to try things in life, the more forbidden the better, and my natural curiosity brought me to a place I never thought I would set foot in: a swingers club!
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As an urban journalist, I feel like my role is to break down taboos for a living. It all goes back to the Blockbuster days.
You know when your mom takes you out to choose the movies and video games for the weekend and she tells you to stay away from the 18+ door? This is where it all began.
Whenever someone tells me it’s too much, too taboo, untalkaboutable, my brain reacts like a magnet to metal.
This time around, the whole ”Let’s Go To A Swingers Club” idea was definitely a little extreme.
Sometimes your craziest ideas come from the silliest conversations.
There was this girl that I was low key flirting with (low key because she didn’t know) that spontaneously told me that she always wanted to know what goes down in a swingers club.
My spider senses were tingling to the max. Was this a sign? Was this a twisted date invitation? I wanted to figure out, I wanted to see for myself, I wanted to….(don’t act like you don’t know the rest).
At Montrealgotstyle we’re all about content. Good content, bad content, controversial content, you-can’t-write-about-this-content; you get the picture.
The promiscuous boy in me saw an opportunity in indulging in the unknown but the journalist in me is the one who made the final decision.
In my mind it was simple, I go there, I see what’s up and I’ll write about it and here we are my friends.
Sorry to keep you hanging but it wouldn’t be fair to not add context. It actually took me 5 months to really grasp what went down.
Today, I’ll go over this crazy experience I had in a swingers club and explore how it’s not exactly what people think it is!
I’m getting ready to hit the club (as crazy as it sounds). The funny thing is, I really had no idea of what to wear. M
y usual outfit is the didn’t-know-there-was-a-dress-code attire but the lady told me the club we were going to was picky about that.
Swingers are actually selective. They expect class and you’re not getting further than the front door if you come out under-dressed (trust me I tried).
I was anxiously waiting for a call from that girl, let’s call her Lady S.
I almost wished for a no call no show at some point. Judging from the enthusiasm in her voice, there was no way around me going there.
I mean, Lady S processed this whole thing like a student working on a doctorate thesis.
She knew about the clientele, the activities, prices, police reports and even where all the exits were (because you never know right).
I felt relaxed, in the know and ready for some ”Journalistic Investigation”
Lady S gets in the car, she’s dressed a little…undressed. The first thing I could say about this experience is this: I was bias from the jump.
A girl gets in a regular club half naked, it doesn’t automatically means she’s up to no good.
When you go to a swingers club perhaps, I felt like the way she was dressed was a not-so-subtle-subtle hint; here goes my spider sense tingling again (extra hard this time).
We get in front of the club in Montreal-North. Since we have to look like we’ve done some research prior to writing all of this. Interestingly enough, this swingers club in Montreal North is the biggest in the world.
Even more interestingly enough, I thought it was a good idea to come through with sunglasses and a long trench coat.
My fear of being caught getting inside the club actually made me gear up with the ultimate creep outfit.
I didn’t know what to expect. I thought I would see people in action from the front door.
I couldn’t help but think about the infamous Nelly Tip Drill video. Perhaps, whenever you have expectations in life. it’s the total opposite that happens (at least for me).
I get inside and go through their registration process. It’s not your regular club where you just show an I.D.
You have to write your full name, your driver license number, phone number, sign a discharge and you’re good to go.
If this ever comes back to hunt me in a near future, at least it made me feel safe at the moment.
I,ve realized that swingers clubs are already in 2030 man!
They gave us a little bracelet with prepaid money for the bar.
Lady S hesitated to ask but we read between the lines that they offer the devices because usually, nobody ends up with clothes on.
The club had 3 floors, a pool and many rooms (of course).
Speaking of not having clothes on, so far so good, we didn’t see anything out of the norm at the entrance.
People were actually really reserved, polite and to themselves.
We go on the third floor to start what would be the longest and funniest night of my life.
Remember what I said about expectations earlier? Well the girl I was with was kind of icy-hot with me.
Maybe she was just curious? maybe she just thought it would be funny?
Based on her nonchalance, it’s safe to say I wasn’t what she was looking for that night.
At this point, my spider senses were off from her and my inner journalist took over.
One thing I noticed about how people interacted with us, is that there are unwritten rules in a swingers club.
If you come through as a couple like we did, besides getting a discount at the door, the wildness doesn’t come automatically.
People inside actually look at you intensely waiting for you to provide the show.
If you stay with your significant other all the way, it’s a subtle message to say you’re either not into sharing or you just want someone to join in.
Contrary to popular beliefs, swingers are very respectful.
They don’t come to you unless you invite them. There were people getting a little busy on the dancefloor but most of freaky stuff was happening in rooms.
The spot is opened 24 hours and I’m stuck with a girl who could care less about me; I’m looking at my watch intensely.
I told Lady S that I wanted to explore the different rooms, she just waved her hand with boredom indicating that the night was almost over.
They had a swimming pool inside the club. If you thought BeachClub was wild, you never saw anything like this.
Something that you can envy from swingers is their free spirit. You do what you want to and to who you want to (with their consent of course).
I’m far from beach-ready so going to the pool shirtless is already challenging.
The swingers were having a blast and 80% of them were butt naked; The highlight of the scene was to see this middle age lady going in; no fucks given.
Since this was not the place to be for my self-conscious self, I went to the ”Voyeur” room.
Voyeurism is definitely not for me, you see all those people getting busy and you can’t really take part of the action. I called it quits when this big guy looked at me the same way a proud dad looks at his son when he first learned to ride a bike.
Besides, I left Lady S upstairs and the date was officially over at this point.
Lady S definitely understood ”Journalistic Investigation” better than me.
She was dancing with the crowd, her demeanor indicated that she probably finished the drinks budget a couple hours ago.
After a couple drunken ”Hey You Sexy Thing” from her, I told her it was time to go.
What happened next seemed to come straight out of Quentin Tarantino‘s tormented mind.
On our way out, a guy of short stature rushed to get to us, let’s call him Litte P.
He said: ”Wait! I saw you at the pool and you looked very uncomfortable, can I find a way to make you guys stay”.
At this very moment, I actually started to feel uncomfortable but I was curious though.
Mind you, he had a towel on and Lady S was acting a little strange.
the guy said: ”Look, it’s my first time here too and I didn’t know what to expect”.
His tone of voice changed, he was relaxed, by the look in his eyes, he was too relaxed.
This is where the story ends and take a strange turn actually.
The guy of short stature made several points about why we should stay but behind the scenes, he was playing chess with me.
In whatever club you’re at, you never know what people actually do in life.
I don’t know for a fact but Little P must be a hell of a salesman cause his pitch was Donald Draper good.
He told me: ”Listen! You look tired my dude. Lady S told me you’re here just to write an article about your experience. You’re not going to get anything out of this unless you really get into the vibe”.
I was raising my eyebrow like The Rock but he made a point.
Little P kept going and said: ”Here’s what we will do for you my dude. Lady S doesn’t want to leave, you want to leave. Two opposite desires, one decision to take, you’re in a dilemma buddy!”. He was right.
He said: ”As a journalist,I guess you want an article based on facts right?”,
I was like: ”Yes!” and then
he said: ”It’s not factual if you write about it but you didn’t live it or least you need someone to give you an honest feedback right?”.
I said: ”Yeah”.
I was mentally scratching my head at this point.
Sensing that he was losing me, he then said: ”Look I will make this whole situation way easier for you. I know Lady S needs a ride back home and I will provide that for her”
”I will take her through all the different installations and I will personally make sure she gives you tangible feedback. We will provide you scales from 1 to 10 if necessary”
This guy literally awakened the ”Lazy” urban journalist in me all of a sudden.
Before I could do or say anything, Lady S took Little P‘s hand and they went to the closest room they could find.
Before he closed the door, he gave me a wink with a corner of a smile.
Pinching myself frenetically, I had to realize that I’ve just got finessed by a guy of short stature at 4:00 in the morning in the middle of a swingers club.
Back to the car. Oh, in case you may ask, I’ve never heard of Lady S ever since.
Myraï Lavoie Is Taking The Fashion World By Storm With The Glitch Fashion Show
Myraï Lavoie Is Creating Her Own Universe And You’re Invited
What I appreciate the most about my work is the fact that I get to meet great minds & humans with a powerful story and this time around, I got to cross path with the talented Myraï Lavoie.
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The city has been quiet fashion wise over the years and as platform that mostly talked about fashion in its inception, we’ve felt it the most over here.
There would be sparks of hope here and there but besides Festival De Mode & Design, not a lot of things really stood out.
When I heard about ”The Glitch” it’s like I knew what it was about without nothing what it was about.
I mean good branding is good branding but it was more so who’s behind the good branding this time around. I had the chance to work with Myraï Lavoie in the past and one thing I can is : there’s a method to her madness.
Every artist has an eye and that eye is shaped by our views of the world and life experiences. Myraï had an interesting life.
One where being different is actually the move. One where if you don’t fit somewhere, you don’t try to get in the mold, you bend it.
For all the lack of support or misunderstand she got in Montreal, she found a place to be creative working or being in room with the likes of Paris Hilton & P. Diddy to name a few.
What she’s learned from coming out of her shell and experiencing the world she’s about the share it with us with her own fashion called ”The Glitch” tonight.
”The Glitch” is exactly what I thought it was going to be. A standout experience and experience and something you’ve never seen before just like its creator.
The 50th Anniversary Of Les Grands Explorateurs Presents A Touching Documentary Exploring Africa And Its Wonders
An Amazing Story by Amazing Creators!
Les Grands Explorateurs Is Celebrating Africa In A Real Way!
Curiosity has to be the most incredible human quality there is and Les Grands Explorateurs has been putting it on the forefront for the past 50 years!
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We are now entering an era where we want to know more about what is going on on the other side of the world.
How people are living, their culture and what is their reality compared to ours.
Sometimes the depiction of such reality is either unfair or made to look down at somebody. Other times, filmmakers have the challenge to depict a reality in a way to uplift what other cultures are bringing to the table.
Milan Bihlmann and Muammer Yilmaz are two filmmakers who know where they stand when it comes to that.
”Rêves D’Afrique” is the epidemy of that. The two filmmakers decided to go to 7 countries in Africa to not only paint the picture for the world but to give the good people out there something we forget to give one another : ”a piece of yourself’.
Armed with a backpack, film gear and true altruism, the duo spread love and good deeds wherever they could throughout their trip.
Watch The Trailer
Les Grands Explorateurs being this platform to uncover the world made the right choice by adding this beautiful piece to their program.
Up until November 1st, you still have the chance to see the beautiful piece in theater and then online starting November 2nd.
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A Change Is Coming…Finally?
I grew up in the 90’s and although we can only realize it now but seeing people like Isabelle Mugwaneza Desmarais striving in a space where not a lot of us do is what was missing this whole time.
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The thing about representation is that you won’t know you need it until you need it. As most of us were just looking at society, we didn’t see ourselves but also normalized it.
I think Isabelle saw something that we couldn’t see in ourselves. The truth is not at the extreme it’s right in the middle. The intersection between being different but also a part of the ecosystem was what she saw.
Representation is not about doing what’s right because it’s right but more so because it needs to be done.
Starting her career in the public sector wasn’t a thrill anymore. Then she did some soul searching and probably came to the conclusion we all come to at some point in our existence:
Life Is A Joke
For her it was literal though. She figured out that humor and the business around it was her calling so what was the first step? Becoming a comedian herself and teach a thing or two to Dave Chappelle?
What about producing your own show with up and coming artists? Well, for Isabelle Mugwaneza Desmarais the start of this new chapter was simple as getting a non-paid internship.
Just For Laughs became her new home and with that started her mission to be at the forefront of what the landscape in comedy was to become.
Through thick and thin, work and dedication, intuition and know-how, she pulled through and the big way too!
Isabelle Mugwaneza Desmarais became the director of ZooFest. With her pulse on the scene, she fought and pushed for upcoming talents that are more than just tanned.
We’re seeing more BIPOCs getting a chance on stage and I would like to believe that this is just the beginning.
Speaking of ZooFest, if you want to see for yourself how this festival has grown in diversity and get a good kick out of it. You still have the opportunity to do so tomorrow as the last day of the celebration
With french performers like Lenny M’Bunga, AZ, Marine Ella, Meryem Benoua, Ayoub Marceau & Hugo.
Live podcasting will also be a part of the last run of the show. In the corner of Jeanne-Mance & Maisonneuve, you can can get a good view, a good potential date, you get to see greatness in all shapes, size or color AND of course a good laugh!
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